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Facing Brain Surgery -
20th May 2018
One of my (possibly totally illogical) fears when I knew I would have to have brain surgery was would they shave a large part of my head. I know hair grows back, and it really is a minor part of all that is being done, but I have always had long hair and it’s felt ‘a part of me’ for a very long time. Thinking you might lose it is not something I wanted to face on top of everything else, when I was already feeling extremely vulnerable and didn’t want the world to know I was having brain surgery. Plus my hair hides a multiple of things -
I guess part of my fear of losing my hair was also a memory I had. Recalled vividly while wondering why I had just been called to go back to the consultant to find the results on the same afternoon I had my MRI. Terrified as to what ‘problem’ they had obviously found. In the drive back to the hospital I just repeatedly had a vision of me as a young child walking up the front footpath to my house with my Nan walking behind me admiring my curly red hair saying “I hope you never have a brain tumour and they need to cut them gorgeous curls off”.
“Is this what I have -
I know I was also scared I had Multiple Sclerosis or some other degenerative brain disease, but somehow inside I knew it was a tumour even then. This was going to have to happen…just like my Nan predicted…
I really wasn’t ready to have my hair cut off, but had looked online at ‘back cuts’ before surgery, where they all but shave the back part, near your neck (where I knew my cut would be) so I could keep the top long, this seemed bearable, but how would I predict how much of the area would be shaved in surgery? In the end I decided to leave it until after the operation -
As it was he didn't cut a straight line, I have a bump on the centre back of my head which he said wouldn't have been the easiest place to put a plate over afterwards. So I had a S shaped scar instead, starting at my neck and going towards my right ear. I also didn't realise I would be getting a fair sized amount of hair removed at the front of my head -
Here are my pictures just after surgery. As you can see the surgeon only shaved a minimal amount of hair for the size of the cuts.
Before surgery I had tied my hair up in a top knot ponytail, assuming they would leave it tied up out the way and still be able to access my head. But clearly this didn’t work as after my hair was simply a glued mess! I looked at myself and thought I looked like a witch, who knows what others thought? It certainly made me look like I had just had brain surgery!
This was the attractive mess I woke to the next morning, and the back of my hair was glued together in a lump, not tied up! The glue gradually unglued itself, but not enough to brush it or even tie it up again neatly.
When I was discharged 2 days after the surgery, Dave and I were told that I could wash my hair from the next day, but he had to do so very carefully for only a short time, avoiding rubbing my head at all and using gentle shampoo. (I only use Faith in Nature shampoo -
I had only felt up to attempting to wash it 2 days after I left hospital, even then I wasn’t able to muster the energy to lift my hands for long enough to wash it myself , was disgusted with how fake and ‘wrong’ my head felt, terrified I would damage a staple or something as I couldn't see what I was doing. So I sat in a shallow warm bath (I was told not to soak the scar in water) while Dave showered and washed my hair. It oddly felt like a test to see how I could cope, my husband having to nurse me, but one that I knew I wasn't allowed to fail. I managed a few minutes, then these clumps of hair fell out -
This picture on the left was taken on the 26th May, 8 days after surgery (when my neck muscles really hurt-
The picture on the right was taken on the 30th July -
But as you can see even then the scars were hardly visible within the rest of my hair.
In the end I decided against the shaved back cut, due to my scar not being only in the centre at the back and having to shave a too bigger area. But several months later (even after I had got over the fact I would always have a numb side to my head) each time I touched a patch of my hair, or it got caught slightly in my handbag shoulder strap, or I moved my hair at the back, I had this horrid sensation that I was touching a wig as it did not feel connected to my head. Plus it also triggered me far too much in being able to feel the numbness without actually touching my head. Which most of the time I couldn't now feel unless I was either in a cold wind or I touched it. I also had the added annoyance that I mostly tied my hair up -
So in October 2016 -
Left: My tufty patch before cutting my hair.
Centre & Right: My short haircut!
Two years later and my hair length is almost back where it was, although I have chosen to keep the top shorter so I don't need to tie it up -
I also feel the numbness far less, I think the area I cannot feel is only a tiny bit smaller when I touch it than it was before my haircut, but I normally cannot touch my hair and feel the wig sensation. I think my body just doesn’t respond to the feelings the same now. So the haircut idea did as I wanted!
I also read the book ‘Do No Harm’ by Henry Marsh recently. One page which really stuck out about shaving hair was: “There is no evidence that the complete head shave we did in the past, which made the patients look like convicts, had any effect on infection rates, which had been the ostensible reason for doing them. I suspect the real -
I am glad our surgeons now realise we are human!